Adoption isn’t as easy as it sounds because we had heartbreak on that journey as well. Birth moms that changed their minds at the last minute is something you can’t predict. After a couple failed matches, I was frustrated so my cousin and I drove up to Lake Arrowhead so I could vent and just get away.
We didn’t have cell phones then so when we got home later that day, my aunt told me that Daniel (my husband) had been trying to reach me and he said it was urgent. I called him right away and he was crying, he said there was a baby born and the birth mom chose us. We needed to drive out to Palm Dessert immediately. I picked Daniel up and as I was driving he said something about “Madison” and I said “who’s Madison”, he said that the birth mom’s friend said that’s what she was calling the baby.
I told my husband to get out my phone book (that’s how long ago it was, we still had written phone books) in the back of the phone book was a list of boys and girls names we had written down over the years. The first name on the girls list was MADISON. We both began to cry because we knew she was going to be our little girl.
A few year later we got a call about a baby girl that was born; we told the social worker we can’t bring her home until the birth parents sign the relinquishment because we could get hurt again. It took about two weeks then we met Hailie, sweet little Hailie with reddish/blonde hair and blue eyes. Madison was so excited to take her new sister home and this adoption was final.
We stopped trying to adopt after that but God in His majesty had more plans for us. We took in a young girl “Jaszy” that was in an abusive home and we consider her our daughter. We fostered another set of siblings that was from an emergency situation and now we have the sibling of Jaszy’s living with us and soon her 15 month old son. So even though we were in a desert for 14 years, God has blessed us abundantly with many children. Some adopted, some fostered and some just came from out of the blue but into our hearts.
If you’re considering adoption just know, we fell head of heels in love with our girls the moment we saw them. Biological child or not, YOU WILL LOVE them with every ounce of your being.
We also chose to have “OPEN ADOPTIONS”, it may sound scary at first but it was what we felt was best for our girls. If I could choose to go back and have biological children or all these beautiful children… I would always choose Madi, Hailie, Jaszy, Bree, JayJay, Manuel and Bonnie. Blood isn’t thicker than heart strings.
James 1:27 “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.”